I almost lost a dear friend yesterday, because I was so busy to listen to what he had to say when he called me. So yesterday evening while I was having a one on one IELTS tutoring class with one of my students. I got a call from one of my young friends, I knew my friend was in distress, it was evident from his voice, so I quickly asked him, if he needed money, or if he was bored with campus food, I even suggested he visits me for a weekend so I can feed him fat with a well-cooked meal.
He answered in the negative, that it was none of the above, He hinted that he needed to discuss something that was bothering him with me. I said okay, I understand, but that I was busy, I promised to back in 3 hours time.
Now when the call came in, I was tutoring someone, controlling the kids so they won’t make so much noise and disturb our class. I was also making preparation to prepare a quick oha soup (you need to taste my oha soup). Check out the recipe here. So, after my class, I prepared the soup, ate, started reading my book for the week Americanah by Chimamanda Adichie.
When I remembered that I promised to call my young friend, it was already very late at night. I called but his number was unreachable when I woke up this morning I kept trying his number but it was still unreachable. So, I left a text message for my young friend to call me when he got the message.
I kept trying his number until I got him at around 10:00 am this morning. The first thing my friend told me was, ”aunty, you didn’t call me as you promised, I really wanted to talk to you yesterday. I’m fine now, but I really needed to talk to you yesterday”. I asked him, what the problem was, we discussed it, he also, told me how he was coping with the challenge. We discussed at length, I offered my advice and we ended the call.
I felt really bad, all sorts of thoughts came to my mind, I questioned myself. It bothered me to realise that I didn’t listen to a young person who was in trouble and thought of me to confide on, I wasn’t able to offer the comfort and solace that was needed from me. I apologised and asked if I can be forgiven for my selfishness. I dawned on that if my friend was about to commit suicide or was in trouble, things may have spoiled just because I didn’t listen to him. I was in a position of help but I was too busy with my own life that I forgot to give a listening ear to a friend in need.
We are all guilty
It is a hard realization, but we are all guilty of neglecting our loved ones when they most need us; giving excuses that are valid, until, something tragic or terrible happens. It is a hard realization, but we are all guilty of neglecting our loved ones when they most need us; giving excuses that are valid, until, something tragic or terrible happens. It is a hard realization, but we are all guilty of neglecting our loved ones when they most need us; giving excuses that are valid, until, something tragic or terrible happens. And we start wishing we listened to them. or that we spent more time, or that we didn’t push them away with our judgmental or condescending character.
Say a word of prayer for my young friend, he is going through a lot right now. I’d love to know what you think about this post. Have you had such an experience previously? I’d love to hear about your experience, maybe it will help someone to take action.