Practical Questions that will Help You Succeed on your Self-improvement Journey.
When I wanted to improve myself, I asked myself a series of questions. And I think anyone that wants to embark on a journey of self-improvement should ask themselves these same questions.
Prior to my self-improvement journey, I was dissatisfied with my life, with the way things were. But, of course, it’s hard to think of anything else when you are yet to provide your immediate needs.
So it’s understandable that most people who ask the question – “how can I improve myself?” are not ready to ask themselves deep questions. That is why I’ve decided to help you with the most important questions you need to answer before you embark on a journey of self-improvement.
Questions you need to answer while you are on your journey to self-improvement
What do I really want?
This is the most important question, you must honestly answer, especially if you are multi-talented like me. There may be so many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about doing some of them during the day, that you end up having unproductive days. Make a checklist of all the things you are really good at doing, then tick two that you are extremely good at. Take small steps daily to improve and master your craft.
What do I want my future to be like?
Just because things are not going the way you want it does not mean you should change who you are. Challenges are a constant in life, so you need to come to terms with the fact that whatever future you hope to have has its peculiar challenges. So while you define the future you want, don’t forget to accommodate the challenges that will come with it.
For instance, if you want to have a better relationship with your spouse, you need to come to terms that you need to spend more time together.
What do I have to gain when I improve myself
What’s the bright side in all of this? I have to make the sacrifices, change my mindset, unlearn certain behaviours and relearn. What is in it for me?
Well, if you are reading this post, it means you probably feel that you have a need to improve some areas of your life. Find out those areas and define what you hope to see in future. There is always a light at the end of a tunnel.
What are my values?
You need to define your core values. Write them down and ask yourself why those are your core values. Does your lifestyle reflect your core values or does it contradict it?
Discovering our core values helps you set goals that align with your values and form relationships that align with your values and goals.
And if you happen to have no values, then it’s time to think deep and define values for yourself.
Am I performing at my optimum potential?
Have I done enough for myself? Do you think you deserve a better life than you have now or you need to have a better relationship with your spouse or children? Do you think you need to build a better relationship with God?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses. So deal with the root of discontentment. Especially, if you feel you are underutilizing your God-given potential.
Am I happy with myself and what I am today?
Most of my adult life, I was dissatisfied with my life, happiness was a luxury, that I cherished. Whenever I accomplished a little feat, I was happy, but it was always momentary (a few hours at the most). I had serious depressive episodes that I felt I had no control over my life. I have never been one to blame anyone, but, over time I started blaming my spouse. Until one day I decided I need to solve this problem, I didn’t want my kids to have the kind of woman I was as a mum. I love them to mum to make lasting changes in my life.
I made the decision before my 30th birthday to apologise to every member of my home and promised them I was going to be a better me. Realising I was not happy helped ask myself why I was not happy and took steps that will make me a better happier person. I realised I was unhappy because I was underperforming. I was underutilizing my potentials.
What level of financial freedom do I need to be happy?
How rich do you think you should be? What are the luxuries of life that you think you should effortlessly enjoy? I suppose in this case there is no such things as having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. But, the real question is how much work and disciple are you willing to put in?
What motivates me may not be what will motivate you? It’s an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose the one that will compel you to make the needed changes in your life and be a better version of yourself is very difficult.
For me, it was to be a good role model for my children. To show them the type of woman I want them to be, by being that woman.
Do I believe in myself and my abilities
If you ask yourself all these questions, and get the answers but, you don’t believe in your self, your self-improvement journey may never yield a positive result.
You need to believe in yourself, in your abilities, in your talents. Believing that when you put in the work that you would indeed be a better version of yourself, makes is the recipe for success?
There nothing like an overnight success
One of the problems our generation face is lack of patience to follow a process. Most of us want a quick fix. A fast remedy to a long time process. When most people google “how to improve myself”, all they want to see is a quick fix, but unfortunately, there is nothing like an overnight success. You need to put in the work and overtime, you will realise that you have become a better version of yourself.
Self-improvement is a continuous process
Taking the step to embark on a self-improvement journey is very rewarding especially if you are patient and consistent in making the necessary changes you need to make in your life. Over time, you will realize that you have moved from “pont A” to “pont B”. Congratulations! you have achieved your goals. But, guess what, your self-improvement journey doesn’t end there, you need to set higher goals for yourself, build deeper relationships, etc.
Don’t be so caught up in your success, that you forget to keep taking intentional steps to be better daily.